Insight Online News / By Rhia Nichols
What should you do when your feelings for your lover begin to fade?
If you find yourself at the end of a rope in your relationship, you C.L.I.M.B. back up!
Make These 4 Changes Right Away If You Feel Him Slipping Away.
I’ve devised a 4-step, fail-safe technique to assist you to get back on track. You’ll be well on your way to having a confident and satisfying relationship if you practice these characteristics.
- Be in love with your mate — (even if you don’t feel loved back)
True, you can’t make someone love you… but you can love them. Stop waiting for your lover to say “I love you” or act sweetly — start by loving yourself.
Leave your ego at home. It’s simple to show someone you care AFTER they reciprocate. The idea is to stay loving even if your spouse isn’t. Act out courageous, loving feelings rather than afraid ones.
Fear-based emotions include jealousy, anger, hatred, melancholy, anxiety, helplessness, and despair. Show loving feelings instead, such as admiration, gratitude, patience, compassion, kindness, and generosity. When you’re in love, you have a sense of plenty in your life. When you’re afraid, you see scarcity everywhere.
- Put all you have into your connection.
Let me ask you a question: Do you expect to obtain a raise or a promotion if you only put in 50% of your effort at work? No way, no how. So, my next question is, what do you believe will happen if you just provide 50% in your personal relationship?
We often put in a lot of effort at work or pour attention and effort into our children, but then offer the dregs of what’s left to our spouses. Remember that providing 50% won’t get you the connection you desire, and giving 150 percent is known as co-dependency. Give your companion your whole attention.
- Commit to nurturing your connection in some manner… every day.
When it comes to your spouse and relationship, be excited. Motivation is a mood, not a characteristic. (I’ll say it again: motivation is a mood, not a quality.) This implies that, unlike your height or eye color, it is not permanent. It’s a fleeting occurrence.
People aren’t always “motivated” or “happy.” People are just people. You must dig deep and choose inspiration on a daily (and often even minute-by-minute) basis. Think of things you like about your spouse or how you’ll feel when you’re getting along and feeling connected. Use these optimistic ideas to motivate yourself).
- Be present in the current moment
Stay in the now and don’t get caught up in the past or the future. Act mindfully in each circumstance, accepting it for what it is rather than what you believe it might or should be.
Remember that your past does not decide your future. Your history is the same as your present. Your immediate actions will influence your future. Whatever occurred in the past with your relationship, tomorrow might be different if you make new, more loving choices now.